Despite the
challenges, I love my job. And
when something gets difficult, or doesn’t go right, I have some good people
inside and outside work that I can talk to. However, when I tell people I have trouble with kids reading
my gender, they don’t get it.
Everyone I know (and most of them are queer) know me as female and can
not fathom that other people struggle with it.
They have the best of
intentions – they see me as someone they care about who has a rough time over
something they can’t see. So they
dismiss it, tell me I look feminine (not really the answer I’m after) or laugh
it off (sometimes it’s a good laugh, I’ll admit). Anyway, without a queer/butch/etc community in a similar
context, it’s hard to find solace.
I don’t know many gender non-conformists, and the ones I do are
transmen, who pass, or it is their intention.
I don’t really want to
pass. I want to be read as female,
just not the female you think. The
initial confusion, the embarrassment that leads to them or me feeling humiliated…it’s
boring and frustrating. It’s like coming out
ALL the time, even when you don't actually have anything to do with the person you’re
‘coming out to’.
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